Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Your Child from 31 to 33 Months: Getting Creative and Assertive

She's a Big Kid Now

My child's physical growth is starting to slow down as she nears her third birthday, but she's getting leaner and faster and more coordinated -- she can sweep the floor, catch a ball, build taller block towers, and even knows how to wash clothes and can grip pens and crayons and write on her own.

As her motor skills improve, she's also increasingly, joyously confident in her play. "Don't be surprised if your child high-fives you as he/she learns new things and becomes more independent."

Here's what I've learned:

Let's Play

Play truly is a child's work. When children engage in physical activity at this age, they improve their strength, endurance, and balance. Games with others help 2-year-olds build language skills and offer a way into the adult world of social rules. Meanwhile, your child's solo investigations into nature, music, and math can teach her about how the world works -- like how some things float while others sink, and how music can affect mood.

Your child has been engaging in symbolic play for months, using toys and dolls to act out events. As she nears her third birthday, "pretend play becomes more sophisticated," and you'll see your child mix and match her props. "She may take a doll from one play set and mix it in with her building blocks, then walk that doll down a staircase made of blocks to get into a toy car."

A Whole New World

In this new, revved-up fantasy life, your child can be a scary lion or a tender mother, a bossy queen or a baby, all while safely working out her emotional life and satisfying her curiosity about why people do things the way they do. Through imaginary play, kids have a chance to take on other points of view and mull over complex emotional issues too.

It's great fun to watch your child's imagination take fire as he rides a mop that has become a horse, serves a dinner made of grass and twig soup, or rides to the moon in a cardboard box. This burning imagination can sometimes result in unique (and occasionally comic) theories about how the world works. By now, your child observer understands certain things because he's seen them with his own eyes, like "the mailman always puts the letters in the mailbox after breakfast." However, for many inexplicable things about the world, like the rainbow over the river after the rainstorm, the explanation may be "magic" -- or your child might concoct stories of his own.

"A monster growled under my bed," she may insist, when explaining why she wants to sleep with you. Or, when you confront him about that broken lamp in the living room, he may claim that he didn't break it even if he was the only one in the room.

Fibs and White Lies

Why do children this age invent stories or even blatantly lie? Mostly, it's because they still have trouble sorting out fantasy from reality. For example, between the ages of 2 and 3, many children engage in "animistic" thinking, believing that inanimate objects are actually alive. "They think the trees are waving their arms, or the table can walk because it has clawed feet." You have to remember that their reality is not your reality.

We adults are partly to blame for this, of course. We tell our children stories about wolves eating grandmothers and men in red suits scrambling down chimneys to put gifts under a tree. What's real and what's not? The boundaries aren't that clear yet, and won't be "until children are 4 or 5" .

Self-Centered Thinking

In addition, "young children usually focus on specific events that are the most important to them and ignore the stuff that isn't". For example, you may have spent an entire week at Disneyland, a week during which your daughter went on rides every day, or visited with cousins you don't often see. But the fact that your child dropped an ice cream cone right after she got it might be the first thing she tells her grandmother because that's something that happened directly to her and she still feels upset when she thinks about it.

Your child eventually outgrows this self-centered stage and will soon learn to tell the difference between real and imagined events. Meanwhile, revel in your little one's make-believe games, because research shows that children who engage in them are more content, self-aware, verbal, sensitive, and socially adept than those who do not.

Fair Treatment and Ownership

What you will also find is that children this age have short memories. When your little girl snatches that red bucket back from her friend and shouts, "Mine!" she may really believe that the bucket belongs to her -- even if she's the one who stole it in the first place. However, when you talk about it with her, your child's budding sense of fair play might kick in and she'll agree to take turns with the bucket.

The flip side is that your child is much more acutely, noisily, and sometimes comically apt to declare that she's been shortchanged. Pour the same amount of juice into two different cups for a pair of kids this age, and you may have a mutiny on your hands as one cries, "But he got more!"

A Changing Worldview

Each day, your child will demonstrate a better working knowledge of the world. One of the clearest signs of this is increased spatial awareness. Ask your 2-year-old to get the toy car he rolled under the table, for instance, and he'll crouch low instead of trying to walk straight under the table and hitting his head.

At age 2, children start learning the most fundamental spatial concepts first, like "on" and "in." They get a lot of practice with these ideas, putting objects "in" containers and watching Mom put dinner "on" the table. At this age, your child will describe an object in relation to a single landmark -- like "the ball is under the tree."

Naturally, what children learn about space and the position of objects by 33 months depends on what caregivers teach them. For instance, saying, "Let's put the plates on the table," or, "Now let's put the crayons in the container," helps a child grasp the language and the concepts involved.

What Your Child's Doing

Month 31

  • Recognizes and draws a circle or a simple cross
  • Runs smoothly
  • Jumps off one step

Month 32

  • Recognizes everyday sounds
  • Kicks a ball forward
  • Can match shapes and colors

Month 33

  • Can answer the question: "Are you a boy or a girl?"
  • Pedals a small tricycle
  • Is able to dress and feed himself with help

Friday, December 19, 2008

Blog Anniversary & Christmas Thanksgiving Contest

My cousin Mommy Ruby who happens to be the Pinay Mommy Blogger turned 1 year in the blogosphere last November 28. For her to express her thanksgiving to all of us, she is hosting this 2 in 1 celebration since Holiday Seasons is already painting the town red. Win these lots of prizes awaiting for you...

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Thursday, December 11, 2008

Proud Mom

Just yesterday, we attended a wedding from a very long time super friend (since elementary days till now). My daughter happened to be her little bride, while me and my husband as secondary sponsors. I was so hesitant to shoulder all the expenses for her gown since I was so doubtful if she would really walk down the aisle alone thinking that she was just 2 years & 2 months old. But still as an optimistic mom, I still looked for the design of her gown and even bought the materials needed as well as her cute little high-heeled shoes.

To my surprise, I was really amazed that she was able to make it. I did not even guide her as she walked down the aisle all alone. I just made a wave from the altar making a sign language to come in front and be with me. Thanks God, she responded. As a mom, I am so proud that at her very young age she was able to do it by herself. Too bad, the elder kids who happened to be the flower girls were the one being guided with their moms as they march going to the altar. *lol*

Early of next year, she will be then a little bride for the second time around. Am so excited for that time to come! Yahoooo……

Daddy's Sad Poem

It is a beautiful poem written by a Father to save his Daughter. Do read it once........ ....I am sure you also won't be left untouched by the words and the feelings that they depict. The last stanza, after reading from the beginning, suddenly slows down the heart-beats. .


A sad Dad's poem...
This is a beautiful poem... There is an appeal from a Zimbabwean couple at the bottom of message, not asking for anything more than that you hand the poem on. The husband wrote the poem.

Here it goes:

Just for this morning, I am going to smile when I see your face and laugh when I feel like crying.

Just for this morning, I will let you choose what you want to wear, and smile and say how perfect it is.

Just for this morning, I am going to step over the laundry and pick you up and take you to the park to play.

Just for this morning, I will leave the dishes in the sink, and let you teach me how to put that puzzle of yours together.

Just for this afternoon, I will unplug the telephone and keep the computer off, and sit with you in the backyard and blow bubbles.

Just for this afternoon, I will not yell once, not even a tiny grumble when you scream and whine for the ice cream truck, and I will buy you one if he comes by.

Just for this afternoon, I won't worry what you are going to be when you grow up or second guess every decision I have made where you are concerned.

Just for this afternoon, I will let you help me bake cookies, and I won't stand over you trying to fix them.

Just for this afternoon, I will take us to McDonald's and buy us both a Happy Meal so you can have both toys.

Just for this evening, I will hold you in my arms and tell you a story about how you were born and how much I love you.

Just for this evening, I will let you splash in the tub and not get angry.

Just for this evening, I will let you stay up late while we sit on the porch and count all the stars.

Just for this evening, I will snuggle beside you for hours, and miss my favourite TV shows.

Just for this evening when I run my finger through your hair as you pray, I will simply be grateful that God has given me the greatest gift ever given.

I will think about the mothers and fathers who are searching for their missing children, the mothers and fathers who are visiting their children's graves instead of their bedrooms. The mothers and fathers who are in hospital rooms watching their children suffer senselessly and screaming inside that little body . And when I kiss you goodnight I will hold you a little tighter, a little longer. It is then, that I will thank God for you, and ask him for nothing, except one more day......... ....